Haha the friend zone, there's so much buzz about it, I thought I'll write something about it... seeing as 99% of my fds and buddies and so forth are male.
I find the concept rather funny.
People always talk about the ladder theory or whatever theory. I think there can be fdship with males, but the criteria has to be one of the following:
1) taken
2) no physical attraction (imagine if you were trapped on an island for a couple of days, nothing would happen)
3) Others, fair game...
Other than that, I think fds can turn into any type of relationship, depending how the two people take it.
I mean I have been fds with some people I find extremely attractive, but that is because I was taken, or they did not want to take it any further. It's not impossible for other situations to happen, but I find that hormones do take the best of you at times of vulnerability. It's just human nature....
Because just being friends, you really got to set boundaries... if you don't care the type of relationship (I mean two people doens't just have to be dating or fds...) and don't worry so much about it... then things can be quite happy too...
Jealousy becomes another issues, it's not that you don't want close male fds, but when they become a threat to your real, live in, for a while relationships, I think the choice becomes clear. After all, you can only spill your day, feelings, and heart to so many people at the same time.
If you look back, I think the one you end up dating for real, is the person you talk to the most, and so wouldn't it make sense that you can only be closed to one at a time if you were dating.
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